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Baby step 2….get really mad it works wonders! 

Let’s talk about getting out of debt for a few. If you have read, listened or taken the class for financial freedom with Dave Ramsey’s program you should know what I’m talking about today. When my husband and I got married we had a lot of debt going into our marriage. We had the simplist wedding in Vegas with literally a few people. So that was a super smart move on our part to start with. So we didn’t start with wedding deb like the normal couple. I got pregnant 2 months into our marriage. Not a super shocker but it took us by surprise. Fast forward to 7 months pregnant. We wanted to buy a house so bad we went through 22 offers on homes in California just to get one. We moved in at 8 months pregnant and finally when I took leave I looked at our finances. I haven’t really been good with finances my whole life but it was time to grow up and look. We were trying to figure it all out before I stopped working for good. We had a huge decision to make but in the end it wasn’t a question, I had to quit working and stay at home to raise our boy. So I wrote down our finances with my husbands pay only. Well I almost had a heart attack but really I had a mega panic attack. We needed $1000 extra a month just to break even, without groceries. Uh, I freaked. When my husband drove home after a 3 hour commute I told him I had no idea what to do. He mentioned that he had heard about this guy Dave Ramsey and that I (we) should listen to his podcast. That night I downloaded it and started listening to it the next morning. From the first moment I started listening I was hooked. I started googling about getting debt free and came up with a plan. The first thing we started with was listing our debt from largest to smallest. Since I was going to get my paid leave for a few months I told him we HAVE to use every penny to pay off debt. Little by little and almost every week we paid off more and more little debts starting with the lowest debt. I cancelled, closed and shredded every credit card we had. Store credit cards are rip Offs by the way! You think you are saving by their rewards? Nope. Guess what? You have to spend to save…..think about it for a moment. So everything was gone! The next step….get rid of the horrendous new Honda Pilot I fleased, yes it’s a lease and the worst kind of car payment you can have. You are renting a vehicle and really burning a hole in your pocket. That’s why it is called a flease in Dave Ramsey’s terms. My husband looked shocked! He thought I was a little crazy to want to return this brand new vehicle I loved. It wasn’t important to me, what was important was changing our family tree. Taking stress off my husbands shoulders. He was the main and only money maker in the house now and I had to cut things out. Getting my hair done, not anymore. I go maybe once a year now instead of every 4-6 weeks. Going out to dinner, nope. Mindlessly spending, nope. That year we paid off thousands of dollars and so much that we actually had $1000 extra cushion in our budget! Love, love, love! 

Let’s fast forward a bit. We got an offer to move to Virginia that I didn’t want to pass up. People were thinking we were crazy to move from “beautiful, sunny San Diego” to Virginia…..but we didn’t. We wanted out of our mortgage anyway. The area was closing in on us with pot growers also and I really wanted a safer environment for all of us. We put our the little house on over an acre on the market and sold it within 1 week! We were shocked and just ready! We packed up, moved to Virginia. We put our debt free on hold so we were comfy to move and wanted to start back when we got here. Well……we went backwards. We “needed stuff” when we got here. New bed (needed a king not queen size) , couch (all we had was a small leather couch),  tv (ours broke within a month of moving), went out to eat and those sort of things. One thing we did well was biking everywhere which saved us mega! We only filled up once a month on gas and that was amazing. Instead of every week in California. So, 3 months after we moved I got pregnant again. So guess what? We kept the debt free on hold longer until he was born. It’s what you are supposed to do anyway in case something happens. Right when we were going to start back on our debt free journey we decided to move to a bidder house and better area. Prolonging our journey but honestly it was the best move ever for us. Oh and we also bought a Jeep. Ha! We don’t have share a vehicle anymore, which actually helps a lot. It’s older also, not brand new and it was not expensive, thank goodness. 

So here we are two years after we move to Virginia. One kid was born(paid in cash), moved(paid in cash) , lots vet bills( paid in cash), dr bills (paid in cash) and acquired more debt(not paid in cash 😦   ). 

Last week I got what Dave says, “I got mad at debt, like really pissed off”. Last week I told my hubby, “that’s it! Beans and rice, rice and beans. I’m done!”. He completely agreed and so here we are….. Mad at debt! Not prolonging it anymore and getting after debt once again. 

A question people ask or what I’ve heard people complain about is that they don’t want to eat beans and rice. I had some say they don’t want to eat crap. Um, did you know that brown rice, black beans, ground turkey, bell peppers, zucccini and broccoli is not crap. It’s yummy and health. We eat more than just that though, just smarter eating. And Um, he doesn’t mean you have to literally eat beans and rice. What he means is cut your grocery bill down. I eat super healthy and defenitetly healthier when we are getting out of debt. I lose weight and feel amazing. It truly is such an amazing lifestyle to eat healthy. And no, health food isn’t more expensive, it’s something you shouldn’t over think about. Stop drinking you fattening, super sugary Starbucks drinks. I bet you’ll cut your waistline down by just stopping that. And your wallet will thank you. 

Here is our action plan:

1. My goal is to cut our grocery bills in half and use cash. Using cash scares me because I typically pick up items I believe we need but really we don’t. I don’t want to look stupid at the register and go over our allotted cash amount. Well, sometime you need to do things that are scary to succeed in life. So that’s what I am going to do. Also, I love Costco. Like absolutely love costco, but I seriously spend like $200 a week easily there. Then go to a grocery store and buy more. That is not necessary. So, I’m going to try to do away with Costco for the time being. Also, until winter hits and it’s is to cold, I will ride my bike to the grocery store to save money also. You can’t buy a bunch riding s bike, HA! 

2. No more eating out. We don’t do this a lot anyway, but it’s gone completely for now. 

3. I unsubcribed to all the clothing stores I get emails on and any other emails from regular stores as well. It will keep my mind in check on things we “need” but really don’t need. 

4. I’m getting back to doing my surveys to get extra money. Recently I did surveys and bought my husbands PS4. He absolutely loves it! I typically buy our extra things with survey money. So I’m getting back to that. 

5. Listen to Dave Ramsey podcasts. This is one way to getting my brain retired back to saving, it really has helped us a lot. 

6. Encourage others to get debt free and feel less stressed. I see and hear a lot of stressed out people working for money just to buy things. It’s not a fun way to live. So if I can even help one person get on track to getting out of debt, I’ve done something life saving. 

7. Get back to working out and look into personal training option. I have a passion for working out and really think it may be time for me to put it into action. 

7. Practice making cakes and cupcakes, especially in the design area. I also have a passion for cakes, cupcakes and decorating. I really think it’s time to put my skills to work. Who knows, maybe it’ll help me reach out to others more and make a few bucks. As long as I can bring a smile to others that is a job well done. 
If you have any questions one getting out of debt, just ask. I’m here for anyone who may need some help learning about it all. Join me on this journey, you (we) can do it!! 
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Happy 5 Years!!!

It has officially been 5 years since I quit smoking! No, it was not a New years Resolution. It just so happened to be at the beginning of the year.

See, I met this guy. We went on our first date. That night I knew we were going to get married. I just knew it! I decided that night to quit smoking. Cold turkey. I did not want to lose him over some absolute disgusting habit. I had always wanted to quit and for some reason never had a “reason” to quit. Boy did I do an amazing thing by quitting. I am still married to that man and one day will write about our amazing story. It sounds to good to be true but it was truly meant to be. I love telling people about it!

I am so incredibly happy to have quit smoking and if you are wanting to quit, today’s the day!! Quit now! It is SO worth it!! It is not pretty, it ruins your skin, hair, you smell (yuck) and it is not healthy. And with the money you save you can also pay down your debt. Or save for a summer vaca, smoking is expensive ya’ll!

 

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Get out of debt

When we first decided to kick our debt to the curb it wasn’t that easy. When you grow up not being taught how to manage your money. Not taught how bad credit cards are, isn’t a high credit score good after all? I was taught to get a credit card and get a credit score. I was not taught how to invest. Budget. What’s that?I just knew I needed a job to pay my bills and hope to one day….Idk I had no idea what I was supposed to do. I did not have a dream of being anything. I didn’t want to be a stay at home wife. I actually never wanted to get married and have kids, that is a whole different topic. No Cinderella dreams over here. Ha! It is kind of sad when you think about it.  And here I am, married for over 4 years, two kids and stay at home mom. Interesting how thing work out for the good 😍

I read this Article from Dave Ramsey’s website today and agree with it all. We have literally done it all. Or gone through it.

1. The doubt was enormous but once we made our budget and starting plowing through or debt i was optimistic. 

2. We really got gazelle intense! I was looking in every direction on how to save and pay off. 

3. I listened to Dave Ramsey Podcast, all three of them. Everyday. While I worked out. Cooked. Cleaned. I loved it. It is SO motivating! I was able to learn so much. It also helped me give money advice to others. Pretty darn cool. 

4. Oh my goodness did we sell. We sold so much our dogs thought we were moving. Haha! No joke. We had about 1/4 of the stuff we moved with and it felt AMAZING! We live a pretty simple life now and I never want to go back to the “old us”. 

5. Bargains. Yes, varage sale is huge in California so I bought used everything. I tried to get as much free stuff also. A lot of people just want to get rid of things and I loved it! Of course I sanitized everything but I never minded second hand stuff. 

6. Budgeting. Not the most desired thing for me but I started to love it. This is such an important step when getting debt free. Tell your money where to go, every penny of it. 

7. Cash. It gives me a bit of anxiety to use cash….at Costco. But once I started using cash it got easier. I treat it like a game, a challenging one. I also save the change for a rainy day. It’s amazing how fast change adds up. 

8. Family. Yes. My husband and I were on board from day one. It would have been impossible to do this without him. 

9. Work hard was an understatement. My husband, he is amazing! He worked SO much overtime. He would work hard around the house on weekend to save money also. I also worked my hardest to make homemade everything and fix stuff myself. Sometimes a second job is needed. Thankfully we are doing it without. 

10. When you are able to see how the progress is going it can be very motivating. I have it written on our dry erase board. 

11. The word no. Oh gosh, that’s a hard one for me. My husband, not so much. He is good at saying no. Learning how to say no was probably one of the hardest things ever!

12. Packing lunches and making our own coffee was easy for us. We were already doing that and not to save money but to be healthy. I love black coffee! Love! I would spend $10 a day at Starbucks (if I only drank black coffee). That’s $70 a week and $3,640 bucks a year! On just coffee!! How bout food. You eat out for each meal. 3x $10 (the average meal these days). That’s $30 a day, $210 a week and $10,920 a year! That’s not including alcohol, going out, fancy foods. Just plain old fast foods. Coffee and fast a year (on average) would be $14,560. Its way cheaper to make food at home and brew your own coffe with no added stuff. And healthier! By far. I am 20 lbs lighter than my wedding day because of this 😃 a win win situation. 

13. Spending time with people who respect your process is ideal. It makes it easier.

14. Creative should be our last name by now. It is an important piece to our puzzle. 

15. We stopped my husband 401k since mine didn’t exist due to me not working anymore. 

16. Prayer. Ah yes. This is one thing I do a lot. Sometimes scream, cry and just talk to God about it all. Faith is what has kept us chugging along in our journey. 

Once again, Dave Ramsey has put together such a great list. If you are thinking about getting your finances together. The time is now! It’s never to late to start. We started when I was 31 and my husband was 33. It’s not usually fun in the beginning but once the train starts to go it gets better.  Believe me. We will also teach our boys how to Manage money, that I do know. I do not want them to be clueless about their future. I highly recommend you check out Dave Ramsey, listen to his podcast and start today. 
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Avocados

I absolutely love avocados. I prefer avocados on my sandwiches over putting mayo or other spreads. I add them in Smoothies, the obvious mexican foods, and I even put them on pizza. It is such a super fruit that we all should be trying to eat. Some people might not want to eat them because they are fat but it’s a good kind of fat.

 

I found this online and thought it was funny-Hahaha

Since we do not live in California anymore the cost of avocados are a little higher over here on the east coast. I went to Costco and it was $7.99 for a bag! Since I did not want to waste money I made an effort to finish the bag before they went bad. And, to my surprise I succeeded! If you ever are looking for a way to add more nutrients and trash the butter and mayo I’d try switching to avocados. Of course everything is moderation is the best because too much fat isn’t great either. But, this is a great way to switch out the bad. I absolutely LOVE avocado!!!

 

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Platinum blonde hair at home

I seem to be having such a hard time finding a hair stylist I like over here on the east coast. I have gone to 2 hair stylists to get my platinum blonde hair back like I had in California. The first hairstylist I went to over here I spend $200 and that was without a haircut!! And It came out brassy and not good looking. The second stylist I spend $150 with haircut and she said I didn’t need toner?! Weird. I have never had a hairstylist tell me no toner for bleach blonde hair. I had brassy hair, shocking. I also have tried a few different box brands at home in the last year. I was just trying to find a solution and a less expensive solution at that. Well, I finally found a hair dye I can use at home and it is $8.49. You can get it almost anywhere, in my experience so far. I typically get it at Target but i have seen it almost everywhere that hair dye is sold. This hair bleach has worked wonders for me and I do not have a brassy color after using it. I naturally have dirty blonde hair and next to my bleach blonde it looks black. So it is pretty hard to lighten my hair without getting a brassy color to it. If you are looking for a platinum blonde at home dye this is a really good one. I did not filter the pictures below, they are different angles in the light. I absolutely love L’Oréal Féria Absolute Platinum. It is my absolute favorite and I will be using this from now on. The color comes out amazing (for me) and I highly reccommend it. I cannot say you will have the same exact color but I have used this twice with the same awesome results!! I have gotten SO many compliments on my hair!

Disclaimer: I am not a hairstylists and I cannot guarantee you will get the same results. But I am very happy with my results. I also have only used it as a touch up since the rest of my hair is already bleach blonde throughout the years. I do know if you use this hair dye on your already processed hair it may break. That is typical with bleach. Use at your own risk, you are responsible for any harm or damage that you suffer as a result. 

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I FINALLY found my favorite Shampoo and Conditioner

I have been on the hunt for a great shampoo and conditioner for the last 2 years! I have tried expensive brands that don’t have the best ingredients. I have tried to use coconut oil on my hair. It took me almost two weeks to recover from the coconut oil. It wrecked my hair! I have tried homemade shampoo and conditioner. I could not even brush my hair it dried my hair out so darn bad. I have tried Alba which is a little better but I would have to apply the conditioner twice and I still had a ton of tangles. And, many more products. So I was at the end of trying to find a sulfate and paraban free shampoo and conditioner…..and then my husband went to Costco by himself and got a Kirkland brand shampoo. IMG_7185He doesn’t look for the ingredients, he just grabbed it and that was it. I noticed it was Sulfate and Paraban free. I was shocked. I used the shampoo and noticed my hair felt softer! So I went to Costco asap and got the conditioner and there is NO turning back! This shampoo and conditioner are MY absolute favorite! My bleach blonde hair does not get wrecked, it shines and it feels so darn soft! If you are searching for a color treated friendly, Sulfate free and Paraban free shampoo you need to try this brand. Hope this can help at least one person out there that has the same issue 🙂

 

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